In this episode I answer a letter which asks, ‘If I am “Responsible” for being sick, how can I not give myself a hard time about that?’
And another letter which asks, ‘How could being sick now be caused by earlier trauma when I know I had a happy childhood?’
I also go into the notion of [...]

In this episode I answer a letter which asks the question, ‘If nothing is random and everything is a clue, how does that work for children? Are they responsible for the illness just like adults?’ Here is my passport picture from 1991 and as you can see I used to have dark hair, I mean wear glasses.
I no longer wear glasses because of the Bates method. I also answer a number of letters about natural vision improvement and in particular the Bates Method.

If you’ve ever found yourself at the fridge in the middle of the night about to break your diet or about to have a cigarette when you gave up or dial the number you know you shouldn’t then this audio update is for you.  It is about why we sabotage ourselves and logic behind our [...]

Are your symptoms intermittent?
‘What do you mean?’
Do they come and go?
‘Yes.’
That’s useful because. . . .
‘Useful!’
. . .yes, because you can begin to look for patterns in the times your symptoms occur.
‘How is that useful?’
Discovering patterns in your symptoms can help you discover
possible triggers.
‘Do you mean what could be triggering my symptoms?’
Exactly.
‘How do I do [...]

‘I resent the fact that I have to look for
alternative solutions for my health issues.’
Why is that?
‘Frankly, I don’t want to be involved. I don’t
want to think about it. That’s what Doctors are
for. You go to the Doctor and they’re supposed to
fix you. It’s what they’re trained for.’
I see. Let me [...]

When you are sick the idea that someone else can fix you is deeply rooted and very attractive.
‘You think it’s silly.’
No, I think it’s understandable. You don’t expect to know how to fix you car or your computer or your washing machine.
You know there are people who have devoted time and energy into becoming experts [...]

‘I had a big fight with Jimmy. He keeps ignoring me when we’re out and he can be quite inconsiderate.’
No one likes him.  Why are you still with him?
‘I don’t really know.  There’s just something about him. He has these amazing flashes of kindness.’
Beware the loop of becoming.
‘Be-what the what of what?’
The loop of becoming. [...]

‘I don’t get it.’

What don’t you get?

‘Well it’s the strangest thing, I start off the
week with the best of intentions. I’m not going to
smoke too much. I’m not going to drink too much.
I’m not going to eat too much and I’m going to do
lots more exercise.
I start off well enough [...]

“When he forgets our anniversary it means he doesn’t care.”
“When she flirts with a waiter it means I don’t satisfy her.”
“When he doesn’t listen to me it means he is taking me for granted.”
“When she makes suggestions about my clothes it means she wants to dominate me and take my power away.”
“When he leaves the [...]

This is a continuation of Why is Change Difficult? which you can read Here or listen to Here.

Once upon a time there was a woman who had low self worth. She had been unhappily married for over 20 years and in all that time her husband had supported her.  Specifically, he had supported her [...]

‘I’ve seen ‘The Secret.’ and it doesn’t work.’
Really?
‘Yes, and don’t try and pin it on me.  I did everything they said on that video and it still didn’t work.’
In what area of your life were you trying to apply the principles of ‘The Secret’?
‘Money of course!!’
I see. So what did you do?
‘I believed I was [...]

This is a continuation of Why is Change Difficult? which you can read Here or listen to Here.
‘I’ve been thinking about what you said in
Berlin about change but I still don’t understand
what the big problem is with changing a belief.’
Okay, I’ll make it simpler. Let’s forget about
the city and let’s say your inner [...]

‘That’s it I’ve had it. I’m sick of working for THE MAN.
I’m sick of working towards other people’s dreams.
I’m going to start my own business.’
I see, and what business is that?
‘I’m going to open a coffee shop.’
I see, and do you have experience running a coffee shop?
‘No, but I really like coffee shops and I’ve [...]

“Dear John, I want to thank you for the workshop and your book both of which precipitated a shift in my energy. I have for the last year or more been facing a big lump of self-doubt in me which seemed to expand and infiltrate into many areas of my life, [...]

“When I first came to see John in early 2006 I was feeling so down and totally out of hope for recovery. I had been [...]

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On a cold January night in 2006, in Dublin, my home town, I gave a talk based on the material in my new book, ‘Why Do We Get Sick? Why Do We Get Better? – A Wellness [...]

“Hey John,
Thanks for writing down in a very very funny way, stuff that I have read about in lots of different books put together in one silly, funny, practical, easy to read book. Loved the blacmange example – laughed for ages with the mental picture.
Lyndal Thomas, [...]